Sometimes when a person dislikes or maybe hate the other person, no matter what the other person had done good or even helped a lot for the person, the person will still dislike or maybe hate the other person. Does it sound confusing?
Ermm..not really actually. Hopefully you all get what I'm trying to convey the message above.
I've met a few people with the character of 'the person'. Let it be friends or even parents towards their children. This is for real not the fictional character we see on tv or big screen.
Lets say in a friendship, the other person might have done something that might hurt the person, the person somehow couldn't forgive them and keeps the offending deed in their mind. Sometimes it's just a small misunderstanding but it got out of control. When the other person try to make the situation better...it doesn't work at all. I was once in that phase. But then, I realized that whats the point by keeping the offending deed and spoil a friendship that we had before. But then, the offending deed is pretty deep and complicated and involves other parties too which made it more complicated. So what I did was, I let it go and forget about it. Let's start all over again and keep that offending deed at the very very back of my mind and stray away whenever that offending deed was brought up. Sometimes it is easier said then done. It's too complicated till I didn't want to get involve in it again and cause another fight and many other stuffs that can happen.
In a parents and children relationship, it happens too. Whenever the other person try to make their parents proud of them or just to fulfill their responsibilities as children, the person (parents in this case) will never give their approval. It is very heart breaking for the other person. No matter what the other person have done, in the eyes of the person, the other person is doing whatever is done for a motive. It's like the other person is out to get them. Sometimes the person (parents) would spout out bad stuffs (like..the other person is doing this because they want blah blah..or they never come and visit them blah blah blah) to their other kids which leads them to tell the other person (their siblings). The other person would be so heart broken when they get that news. Sometimes I wonder, should the siblings tell it to the other person or just shut up.
The other person would have the thoughts of: Why doesn't the person like me at all? I'm also their flesh and meat.
The other person would call up their children or other people to share their sadness. The other people which sometimes can be friends or relatives..lets say if it's their relatives..the relatives will be stuck in a situation. This sometimes would give an impression to the 3rd party that the person is black heart and selfish person. Somehow if relatives do know the person pretty well...they are stuck in the middle between the person and the other person. i seriously hope the term the person and the other person is not giving you all a hard time.
It's a situation that nobody would like to get stuck in but there are things that can't be avoided. Getting stuck in between people you know can be very stressful and disheartening. I do know how it feels and sometimes I felt like running away and not wanting to stay at that spot physically or mentally.